Life is a bitter-sweet

"Everyone has a story.
You might think it's not worth telling, but then again, it's a story no one has ever heard. What you do, what you say, how you carry the plot, just might leave a mark on someone."

-Jodi Picoult and Samantha Van Leer.


True, everyone has a story. However, not everyone has the same points of views about the story. For example, from my perspective, I'd think this, this and this. From the second point of view, you/you all might think that, that and that and from the third point of view, he/she/they might think of those, those, this and that.

So for YOU to be at MY perspective, it's not easy. Because YOU might have your personal values and beliefs which is different from mine. For instances, maybe YOU think it is right to spend more time with family rather than friends. On the other hand, I might think that it is right to spend equal time with family and friends because they are both equally important to me. Whereas THEY/some might think that friends are the most important of all, if there is no friends they wouldn't have become who they are now, other than family of course.
The different in opinions go on and on, just for one story. 

If you ask, how does mutual understanding meet then?
I'd say there is a bridge in between all these thoughts and point of views.
Those are.. Listen. Respect. Learn. and Appreciate.

LISTEN (sit/calm down and listen.) what people has got to say about it.
RESPECT that everybody has different views/stories and also different ways to express them.
LEARN if that is what makes you realize that, "Ohh, this is something new to me." "Oh, how come that never came across my mind before?" "Ohh, now I get it."
APPRECIATE (whether you have/have not learnt something new, appreciate.) because it takes courage to express how and what you wanna tell to people. It takes guts to deliver your message to people, to let them know what you think.

It still takes time to reach the understanding process but at one point in life, you will.
Because now, (for example) YOU will never understand how I feel until you go through the experiences that I went through. Similarly, I will never comprehend how you take a certain matter so lightly unless I am at your shoe.


Y'know sometimes, during the growing process.. I will come to a point where I understand a certain process, of why it happened and why the person made that decision. I'll be like, "Ahh, now I know why!" or "Ahh, now I understand!"
It feels good when you have reached the understanding stage.
But in certain situation, you will (still) can't figure out why and you're totally clueless of what you can do since what you're supposed to do has already been done.

For example in giving health education, no matter how many times you have remind your patients about the do(s) and don't(s) list, no matter how many times they verbalized understanding, if they are not compliant to what you say, you seriously have no control for that. You have already done your best to include all the information that they need.

Yep, there is definitely a lot of frustration, I know. But sometimes, it's just that. It's up to them to follow or not (although you have done your responsibility and you secretly wish they will do it and on the recovery track.)


Yet again, life and people are not perfect. That, pk you must accept and understand it thoroughly well.