As we move on in life..

we noticed a lot of things.


1) The another side of the society.
The brutal, unkind, no courtesy kind of society is what I'm talking about. I've came to a point of realisation that not many of the people you meet, will appreciate what you do/did for them. Maybe they do, but they forget .. easily. And the normal routines go on as usual. Not even a "thank you" after an asked favor is done. Worse is that you get a sour face/bad attitude/SMIRKS in return. *shakes head dissapointingly* Kids nowadays should be taught what manners mean, so that in the future they'll know how important that value is. Adding on, the serious shooting case that is happening, the harsh comments towards each other over some sensitive issues, and the attention seeking people doing something obnoxious in public nowadays.. make me speechless. Well, it's nothing surprising, nothing culture-shocking about the community we are having, it just makes my eyes open wider as someone who is (not really) a newbie in adulthood if you get what I mean.


2) 'Random Act Of Kindness'.
When we are readily to help people whom we know or might not know (strangers), always be prepared for the worse. As in, expect NOTHING in return. Expectations lead to dissapointment MOST.OF.THE.TIME, so do it truthfully from your heart I'd say. But actually, in the process of helping people, we gain happiness, enjoyment and sense of fulfillment that no money in the world can buy. That's even better, right?


3) Friends come and go.
You, me, everybody else will be meeting thousands, countless people in life. Yet as we grow, we realise who our real friends are, those who are trust-worthy, those whom we can count on, those who is/are always there to be our supporting system, and those who are having the same 'channel' (as in interest, the 'click' people usually say) with you. In the process of losing a friend who betrayed/hurt you in some way (maybe that friend of yours once meant a lot to you), in the meantime you'll be friending with a better person who perhaps will replace your 'lost' friend. Well I'm not saying this replaced friend is any better, in the future we wouldn't know what will happen, maybe this friend will do the same/maybe not.. it all depends. To sum it all up, it's pretty hard to find a loyal friend -like one in a million chances. 
(I'm glad that my friends aren't all like that.) 
Oh! On an important note, do NOT treat any of your friends as TRASH.. that's the reason why I see people lose friends so easily. Tsk that's pathetic.

4) Judgements.
This is just too much to talk about.
First off, our youngsters today are often influenced by so called 'JUDGEMENTS' by other people. That's what make them to pretend and act like who they are not. We all know that fame is gained by the number of 'likes', and to compete for that fame, teens are willing to do whatever they can just to gather as much 'likes' as possible to the extend where some of them couldn't stand it and finally commit.... suicide. Ahhh, that is just too much.
I've came across too much miserable people who died just because of JUDGEMENTS. Too much. *shakes head* 
I've learnt that we cannot let the comments to affect us that much. What's right is RIGHT, what's not is totally rationally NOT. Sure, comments come in positive and negative ones. We can take in the positive feedbacks as an inspiration to move forward, whereas the bad feedbacks as an experience/mistake to be better. One thing for sure is, never take harsh reply THAT seriously. In fact some things in life, we just cannot take it to personally deep into our brain, heart, liver.. okay whatever. Expressing yourself in the media world (like facebook and twitter) is good sometimes but ALWAYS know the limits. Angers could be typed out in words, but do not overdo it. Because I've learnt that feelings that we all are experiencing are just temporary. Think about that, it's true.

5) Attitude/Emotions.
As we move on in life.. we all have our own characters/personalities/attitudes/pros and cons. I've realised that people are not a good emotion controller. Not everybody could resist the upset feelings by not crying (especially for girls), nor be patient enough to control the self-anger/self hatred that grow within. It's the norm that most of the people release what they don't wish/want in their mind online. The traditional old diaries have been replaced with blogs, regular tweets or even facebook statuses. Level of privacy is deteriorating, however it's just the way they document their life in this modern, globalisation world. On the other hand, those good ol' human beings who are good in controlling their emotions prefer keeping it to themselves, let those emotions run in their head, process and settle everything in their head. Those, I'd categorize them as the magically good emotion controller. In my world, I'm fortunate enough to have met a few, although I'm not a bad emotion controller, I guess I'm not good enough and this is something that I should learn over and over again.

6) Self egoism vs Jealousy.
Self egoism : Guys always win.
Jealousy : Don't try hard to win this, guys. Girls ALWAYS have the title.


7) Changes.
Time ticks second by second. If you're listening to a song right now, that particular singer could have sung in a pretty graceful way and BAM! Your three minutes are gone -just like that. Maybe after the three minutes, it could turn your upset mood upside down to a happy one. Well.. okay what a bad example but you got what I mean right? Year by year we change.. Embrace the good changes that happened, maintain it or better, improvise! I actually don't get why people are afraid of changes. Probably because they are scared of not being themselves anymore... hey? if you're changing for your own good in terms of characters, without the thought of trying to be somebody else other than yourself, you're heading to the right direction. Don't doubt, and never surround yourself with people who will make you doubt, especially when it concerns about 'self-worth'.

Okay, I think I'm done with this.
These transparent terms I highlighted are something all of us should ponder once in a while.
I'm sure I'll never stop learning as I move on.


P/S : These written words are meant to be my reminders whenever I feel like reading it. :)

Have a lovely Friday, people!

xx